Whether it is conscious, subconscious, intentional or unintentional, humans make roughly 773,180 decisions within a lifetime. And of those 773,180 we regret 143,262 of them. Each week we spend approximately 7.5 hours pondering what to do rather than simply choosing. Taking control of one’s life is no longer a simple task. In order to truly take charge of your own life it takes a lot of determination, consistency and confidence but the reward of peace and freedom is a feeling like no other.
The Steps to taking control of your life:
Evaluate your Life as an Outsider
Before you can control anything or anyone, you must understand where you are at with yourself. The best way to analyze your life is to first evaluate it. Look at your life from an outsider’s perspective. Ask yourself questions like – how would I feel if? Would I want this to be my life? Is that person happy? Compare and contrast the positive pieces of your life to the not-so-perfect components. Try not to become too attached as you break down your current situation. Remember you are not tied to this life, it will change, but you cannot change something if you don’t know first what you need to change.
Some questions you can begin to ask yourself are:
- Am I happy with my job?
- Am I in a strong relationship?
- Do I enjoy coming home?
- Do I love myself?
- Am I happy?
- Do I feel strong?
- Is this the life my past self worked hard to achieve?
Visualize your Idealistic Life
Imagine a world in which you are living the unreasonable. Block out everything you have just written down, the good and the bad. Imagine a simplistic moment in your future where you have reached the apex of your life. This is exactly what bliss looks, smells and feels like. Write it down and record this beautiful future. There is no point in taking control if you have no direction in which to begin steering.
Within your minds eye paint this unfathomable picture and consider things such as:
- What is my career?
- Who is with me?
- Why am I so happy?
- What do I do for fun?
- How do I feel?
- What is bringing me joy?
- If I had no limitations, what would my life look like?
Pinpoint your connections of Support
I truly believe that it takes a village to raise a kid in today’s world, but that settlement of support shouldn’t dissipate as you get older, in fact it should get stronger and more tightly connected. Think through your cheer squad, try to have at least one of every type of support: Make sure that you have someone to be all of these things to you:
(You can repeat people but consider who you can turn to if you have a disagreement
with your top 2 supports)
- Unbiased Non Judgemental Ear
- Shoulder to Cry on
- Your Personal Cheerleader
- A Listener
Unfortunately in today’s society, there is still a negative misconception about asking for help (trust me, I know it’s scary). We so desperately want to believe that we can bear the weight of the world… but we can’t, at least not while maintaining positive mental health. Perhaps all the help you genuinely need right now is a calendar where you keep your goals and dreams updated weekly. Or maybe you have that close knit group of friends that are always there for any type of support.
I believe that we all can benefit and that we all hold a vacancy for a person who can be an unbiased ear in our lives. Having an unbiased third-party in your life, like a mentor coach, can be the goal post to your wildest dreams and biggest potential. Here at Positive Presence Global, we are here for you in an adaptable way to allow you to have a customized, confidential and positive person in your life to help with anything.
Break Down your Dreams into Goals
Hone into those Goals from your visualization of the unreasonable. Choose one of those support systems to share your goals with, speak them into existence and give them life. Write them down into a planner, create a list of the steps necessary to reach what you desire. Make sure that this person you chose to support you is accountable and will check in with you on a regular basis to ensure you’re staying on track. Set timelines for these goals that are measurable and attainable. Ensure to consistently ask:
What is something I can do this week to fast track achieving my grandest goal??
Each time you are about to make a decision, recognize it. Become conscious of the idea that what you say and do is impacting your future, your goals, your mental health and your entire being. Make sure that every decision you make is congruent to the future you want for yourself. Ask this question for every decision you make: Does making this decision bring me closer to my goal or take me further away from it? Feel empowered to make positive choices that elevate you to become the best version of yourself. When you make a good decision, share it with your support system or your cheerleader! If you made the wrong decision, no problem, share that one to and then strategize how to make better decisions next time.
Now obviously just doing these 5 things will not be an immediate recipe for you to wake up one morning and be the best you, , but they are integral first steps to building your foundation. Each morning you wake up, choose to work hard. Choose to put yourself and your needs first. A house cannot be built without a firm foundation, and a goal cannot be built without setting intention. Change can be frightening but so can wasting 391 hours a year on being indecisive? You’ve already made a remarkable decision by simply reading this blog, so my question now is are you ready for more?
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