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Helping Resistant Teens Agree to Life Coaching

Want to hear something scary? According to the CDC, the second leading cause of death among teens aged 15 to 19 is suicide, only second to accidents. Adolescence is the most formative and volatile part of anyone’s life. Pile on the stressors of school, social life, sports, parents, relationships, etc. and it is a lot for a young person to handle. Intensified by the fact that many teenagers are simultaneously struggling with anxiety, depression, eating disorders, social disorders, ADHD, behavior health disorders, emotional disorders, physical disorders… the list goes on and on. Any number of these struggles could be on your teenager’s plate and their friends, teachers, and family may not even be aware. The teenager themselves may not even realize they are struggling with one of these many issues. 

Many teenagers do not have the vocabulary to express their feelings, thoughts, emotions, and struggles. As their parents and mentors, it is our responsibility to help them expand their knowledge, and self-awareness to better communicate their needs, struggles and goals. 

Recognizing there is an issue is one step, but the second step can be even more difficult. Getting your teenager to agree to receive help for any of these issues can be a huge hurdle. Many teens are resistant to receiving help for emotional, physical, or behavioral issues. Accepting help, from their perspective, can feel like admitting being ‘broken’ or ‘not good enough’, and can make a teenager feel like a failure. Although this couldn’t be further from the truth, it’s important to help them understand their feelings are valid and delicate. 

If your teenager could benefit from the support of a mentor-coach, therapist, psychologist, tutor, etc., but is feeling resistant to the idea, keep reading for some recommendations and tips on how to bridge this gap and get them the help they need and deserve.

How to Talk to a Resistant Teen

A resistant teen is in a vulnerable position. Depending on how you reached this point in the conversation, they may feel attacked, caught off-guard, or embarrassed. As parents and guardians, it is our responsibility to protect them and make them feel safe. Although you have set good intentions for seeking help for your teen, they may still feel defensive. Here are three things to keep in mind when discussing help for your resistant teen: 
  • Understand Why They Feel Resistant
There are a number of reasons a teenager may feel or act resistant to receiving help. Here are just a few examples; 
  • They are embarrassed – “I’m not broken”
  • They don’t think it will work – “I can do it on my own”
  • They don’t think they need help – “This is just how I am”
  • They feel hopeless – “Nothing will work”
  • They don’t like it – “I’ve tried it before and it’s not for me”
Listen to your teenager whenever you bring up the idea of seeking out help. How do they typically respond? Do any of the examples above fit their responses? If so, consider saying something such as:  “I understand you’re feeling _______. I would feel that way too if I were in your position. Can we work together to find a solution that feels good to you?” This type of response reassures your teenager that you hear them and understand what they are communicating. Sometimes, the resistance comes from a lack of validation that the teen’s fears, concerns, and/or worries are noticed.  If this does not work, start by asking some clarifying questions, such as: 
  • Why do you think it won’t work?
  • What part of it feels bad to you?
  • If you do not get this help, what other solutions do you have?
  • Why do you think you’re having such strong feelings about this? 
  • Can you help me understand your point of view?
  • Remain calm throughout the conversation and explain the reasons you think your teenager will benefit from the assistance. 
If you are able to understand the reasoning behind your teenager’s resistance, you can then begin to break down those fears. While remaining calm and open to conversation with your teenager, explain to them why you think this help is needed and beneficial. Here are some examples: 
  • I think the mentor-coach might be a good way for you to learn how to better communicate and understand your emotions so you don’t feel upset as often. 
  • I wonder how a tutor might help you understand what parts of Geometry are more difficult for you and explain them in a different way that might make more sense. 
  • You are capable of doing hard things and it is completely okay to ask for help along the way. I am here to help support you through everything, but I am not an expert in ______. It’s ok to feel unsure about it right now. How can I help you feel more comfortable with moving forward? What information do you still need to know?
  • Relate it to something they already understand
Teenagers have a lot going on, but not as much capacity to handle the stressors of everyday life. One way to try to break through with a resistant teenager is by using analogies that might make more sense to them. Mental health is an intimidating topic and can lead to feelings of failure, fear, and defensiveness.  For example, if you teenager plays sports such as soccer, it might make sense to draw a parallel between needing a soccer coach to teach you the rules of the game, techniques for improving your ball skills, and strategies for the team to play defense and offense. No one is born knowing these things and we need a teacher to enlighten us. This type of analogy may soften their resistance and pique some curiosity.       3.5  Get Them to Be Curious Combined, all these strategies are geared toward lessening the fear/vulnerability/nervousness/sadness/etc your teen is feeling when you bring up options for getting some help. The conversations should help them feel like they are being supported instead of attacked. This may take some time and multiple conversations. A notable win is if your teenager starts asking questions about the help. If you notice this shift, you are making progress. At this point in the conversation, give your teen some autonomy in how they would like to move forward.  Ask them: 
  • What do you want to get out of this if we do it?
  • What type of mentor-coach/therapist/tutor/etc would you be comfortable working with?
  • What do you need help with right now? 

Don’t Give Up

Teens can be difficult, stubborn, and emotional. This is normal. As our founder says, ‘we’re dealing with the hardest type of human – a teenager.’ As their parent or guardian it is extremely important to stay calm and persistent if you truly believe this assistance is needed. Don’t give in or give up on providing support simply because they say no – that will only make them feel like it wasn’t valuable enough in the first place. You will slowly start to build trust with your teenager as you continue to have this conversation. As stated before, it is unlikely one conversation will convert a resistant teenager. It will take time and patience. Positive Presence is happy to support parents with these difficult conversations by providing a free 1:1 call with one of our trained mentors. This opportunity can help build much-needed trust and interest in further exploring that relationship. It can also allow the mentor-coach to better understand the needs of the teenager so they can explain the potential benefits.

For more information about setting up a 1:1 consultation, please fill out this form. 

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Karen is currently studying Psychology and Criminology at the University of Arizona, with hopes of making positive contributions to the lives of others in her future career. She is extremely involved at her University, holding board positions in SPURS Honorary and Circle K International, while also maintaining a 4.0 GPA. Karen is passionate about nature, travel, and her Christian faith, and has the ability to connect with people from all walks of life. Karen is an empathetic and inspiring mentor who believes practicing gratitude is an integral aspect of remaining positive. Her past experiences with mental illness, lack of self-esteem, and toxic environments have given her knowledge in just how dark life can get. Karen believes that coming out the other side of this adversity and finding her most authentic self was one of the most invigorating feelings she has ever experienced. It is now Karen’s goal as a mentor to help others reach their fullest potential.

Blake Cleaver

Blake Petersen is a determined first generation college student living in Kansas City. She works with a local non-profit, Support Kansas City, who provide new and upcoming non-profits the tools and resources essential for growth. Blake prides herself on her compassionate mentorship style with talents in actively listening and responding to others. Blake loves being outdoors and reading books in her spare time. Her family and fur babies are two of the most important things in her life. She maintains a positive mindset by reflecting on her accomplishments, her strengths, and the adversities she has overcome. Blake strives to be that non-judgmental, listening ear that she wishes she could’ve had during her teenage years. She is extremely resilient and hopes to teach others the power of resiliency. Blake is passionate about providing support during the uncertainties of life, sharing her experiences, and ensuring her students see all that life has to offer.

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Dustin Jones

Dustin, originally from St. Louis, Missouri, is one of our college aged coaches who is currently obtaining a degree in Finance and Accounting from the University of Indiana. Dustin serves as the Associate Director of Community Service for his Business Fraternity and also sits on the Board of Directors for our non-profit, Positive Presence Foundation. He loves to spend his down time hiking, hammocking with friends, and drawing. Dustin is passionate about helping teenagers because there were many times in his life that he didn’t know what he would have done without the support of people that reached out to help him. He believes asking for help should never make one feel like a burden. Dustin is an introvert who is finding his voice through mentor coaching, and is able to relate with his students by putting himself in their shoes. His sense of humor and generous personality is what makes him stand out as a coach. Dustin is an easy-going mentor who always tries to find the light even in dark times and stays positive by reminding himself of all that he is grateful for in life.

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Marcos is an eclectic mentor, educational coach, and advocate from Los Angeles, California who has been working with youth at a professional level for years; he also has a background in business and community marketing. He prides himself on his ability to not give up, and his perseverance shines true as a first-generation college graduate, as well as the first in his family with a master’s degree. Marcos is passionate about raising awareness regarding social justice, discrimination and advocating for marginalized groups. Marcos believes that everyone deserves to have someone who is there for them unconditionally and wishes he grew up in a setting where having a mentor was more accepted. His confident, empathetic, and authentic energy is what makes him a memorable mentor and allows him the opportunity to guide others in finding their authenticity without shame.

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Becky, a mother of 5 and cancer survivor, is an advocate for children and young adults and starts each day with an unstoppable mindset. She grew up in the Foster Care system and wants to give back what she didn’t have; which is love, compassion, acceptance, belonging, empowerment for our future. Becky has served on multiple school boards over the last decade as well as created and implemented a social / emotional learning program for pre-k – 12. Her career shift to obtain her Mentor-Coach Certification was fueled by fulfilling her passions and following her purpose in life. Becky is a phenomenal coach for teens, young adults and parents and vows to treat every family she works with as her own.

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As a natural leader and the frontman of his band, Fencer, Field Cate strives to be an active advocate for raising mental health awareness through his platform. Being a child actor for over a decade, he recognizes the importance of making one’s mental health a priority and the positive impact that having support systems can provide. Field has overcome many obstacles in his life and in doing so, has grown strong in identifying his feelings and allowing himself to sit with those feelings to better cope rather than reacting in the moment. He believes that he has tools & resources that could be of use for those who are going through similar obstacles and can shed light on what helped him to turn those obstacles into opportunities.

Parthiv Ravikumar

Parthiv Ravikumar, a current Biomedical Engineering and Biotechnology Graduate student at the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth, is a motivated and committed coach. As a former student of the Positive Presence Mentor coaching program, Parthiv has discovered the self-motivation and determination to reach for all his goals and has developed a true passion towards helping the next generation. His coaching journey has continued to fuel his growth and development while inspiring him to take on new challenges knowing they will only push him further towards success. His amiable and approachable personality makes him an asset to our coaching team here at Positive Presence Global and his drive for excellence will allow him to push his students to unlock their true potential and start their journey through development.

Jerusalem Zerihun

Jerusalem Zerihun, a Psychology major at the University of California, Los Angeles, is passionate about mental health and personal development. As a teen who had an opportunity to experience challenges beyond her age and overcame them Jerusalem believes that deep and meaningful change occurs when psychological research and concepts are integrated with life an individual experiences as well as the experiences of others. Through her own personal development and education, Jerusalem discovers techniques that transform her mindset and life, which she hopes to instill in the next generation. Jerusalem believes that with the right mindset everybody can accomplish their goals and live a purposeful and happy life. She also believes that healthy relationships, a sense of direction, and self-love are the ingredients to a satisfying life and she wants to help students strengthen these areas to bring about meaningful change.

Vance Clay

Vance Clay, originally from the Bronx, NY, graduated from Oakwood University and works in logistics with Uber alongside receiving his Mentor Coach Certification with Positive Presence. Some hats he has worn throughout his life include: business owner, deacon, financial advisor and family man. Vance has a passion for helping others which stems from wishing he had a Mentor figure in his life through all the transitional phases. He believes that building rapport with someone who has gone through what one is currently going through or is at where one is striving to be can create an expedited track to success. Vance has overcome many obstacles in his life; one of which is living with a learning disability that creates a disconnect between his thoughts and ability to relay those thoughts on paper. He recognizes that personal development is not linear but rather an everyday journey that allows room for growth and evolvement; and longs to be the person guiding others on that journey.

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Missy Vandenheuvel

Sales Manager

Bio:

Missy is a revitalized mother of two teenagers who understands the resilience it takes to raise children in the midst of a global pandemic. She is a passionate mentor because she recognizes there isn’t nearly enough support for the overwhelming number of people silently struggling. Her sincere and compassionate personality is what makes her thrive as a coach and a leading member of our company. As our Sales manager she recognized that her role is to listen and learn as much about your child (or yourself) as possible. While listening, I am identifying a mentor coach that I believe your child will not only like based on their personality, but also one who has experienced and overcome similar pain points, and areas of opportunity, optimizing relatability. Ultimately, setting your child up for growth and fulfillment socially, mentally, and physically. 

Favorite Mindfulness Techniques:

My Favorite Mindful technique is to Shifting Thought Patterns by focusing on the Grounding Technique. Starts with a big belly breath in. Then, you tap into your 5 senses, to quickly and effortlessly shift your current focus. Choose a sense- any sense, and count down from 5 (order or senses can be altered): 5 things you see, 4 things you smell, 3 things you feel, 2 things you hear, 1 thing you taste.

A Fun Fact:

 I travel to Florida from Wisconsin 3-4 times a year, and we plan to relocate somewhere with the state in 1.5 years. I’ve been dreaming about this since I first saw the ocean at the age of 14 years old. 

State: Wyoming
Email: Missy@positivepresenceglobal.com

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Jessica Waugh

Special Projects Director

Bio:

Jessica has roughly 20 years of experience in the food and beverage industry, curating premier wine programs in Las Vegas and developing educational programs for the largest beverage distribution company in North America. In 2022, Jessica altered her focus and is now utilizing her educational, management, and organizational skills to positively impact others on a grander scale. She is now developing multiple modalities focused in emotional intelligence, executive functioning, meta-learning, and positive psychology for struggling teens and young adults.

Favorite Mindfulness Techniques:

Meditating with sound bowls!

A Fun Fact:

I was the architect for my grandmother’s house

State: Nevada
Email: Jessicaw@positivepresenceglobal.com

Mira Smith

Mira is a Certified Health & Wellness coach who found her passion in Mentoring which led to obtaining her Mentor-Coach Certification with Positive Presence. She is constantly learning and growing and is in the process of becoming Board Certified on the National level. Mira is based out of southern Louisiana where she has lived for most of her life. Her ability to show empathy and put herself in someone else’s shoes; to listen, understand, and show up in a more impactful way while providing different perspective, is what makes her a phenomenal coach. Mira enjoys taking time to cook new recipes and has found that as not only a creative outlet but also a way to take time for herself. She prides herself in being adaptable, authentic and courageous and intends to help the students she works with grow in those aspects while guiding them on a journey of radical self-love and self-acceptance. Mira believes self-love to be the most valuable gift that we can give to ourselves as well as those around us.

Adam Lavigne

Mira is a Certified Health & Wellness coach who found her passion in Mentoring which led to obtaining her Mentor-Coach Certification with Positive Presence. She is constantly learning and growing and is in the process of becoming Board Certified on the National level. Mira is based out of southern Louisiana where she has lived for most of her life. Her ability to show empathy and put herself in someone else’s shoes; to listen, understand, and show up in a more impactful way while providing different perspective, is what makes her a phenomenal coach. Mira enjoys taking time to cook new recipes and has found that as not only a creative outlet but also a way to take time for herself. She prides herself in being adaptable, authentic and courageous and intends to help the students she works with grow in those aspects while guiding them on a journey of radical self-love and self-acceptance. Mira believes self-love to be the most valuable gift that we can give to ourselves as well as those around us.

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Mark Garland

Mark, originally from Colorado, found his passion for mentoring after a tragic loss for his family; losing his 16 year old nephew to suicide. He believes that mental health support is a necessity for all teens and young adults and strives to be that mentor he wishes he had during his darkest times. Through grieving such a young soul who is no longer with us, it made him want to use that experience, along with other life experiences, to support, connect with and watch the next generation flourish. Mark is part of a men’s group, himself, for accountability in his own life and recognizes the positive impact having that accountability partner can make. As someone who has struggled with addiction and, because of that, made the decision to live an alcohol free life for 8 years and counting; Mark is living proof that it is possible to take control of your life to create the reality you want.

Daniel Fouladian

Daniel Fouladian, an Honors Psychology and Digital Humanities graduate from the University of California, Los Angeles, is passionate about helping the next generation of students by using his life experiences and obstacles. Daniel was born deaf and wears a Cochlear Implant on the left side of his head to hear since he was two years old. He understands the significant importance of guidance, self-acceptance, authenticity, and communicating what he needs to achieve his goals. He knows that everyone has the energy to walk their paths and deserves a friend, their lantern, to light their way through the fog on the path. In his free time, he loves playing sports including soccer, basketball, spikeball, and table tennis. In addition, he enjoys expressing his creative side through graphic design and gaming. He believes, he would not be where he is today without his family and friends, therefore, is forever grateful and fortunate.

Robin Vandervest

Robin, based in Wisconsin, has over 18 years of teaching experience and is now building upon her experience as a Mentor-Coach. She has three children and is proud to say she has been there through the high highs and low lows of life alongside them. Robin has taken each of her children on an international trip so they could understand that there are many types of people, culture, and beliefs and they all have something to learn from. She considers herself a dreamer and always aims to uphold integrity as well as show up authentically. Robin wants her students to know that there is nothing they are feeling or thinking that hasn’t been felt by someone else; teenage / young adult years are a time of vulnerability for everyone. She believes that everyone deserves to connect with someone who has had a similar journey and can validate one’s experiences and remind them they will be able to grow and evolve because of it.

Orian Shaer

Orian is an ambitious young adult who graduated high school a year and a half early and now strives to positively contribute to others. She discovered she was passionate about becoming a coach after she personally experienced how impactful a coach can be in someone’s life. She has loved animals since a young age and has spent many years owning and riding horses and became a horse-back-riding instructor to share her love of horses with the younger generations. Orian is an easy-going mentor who approaches coaching from a thoughtful, non-judgmental perspective. She understands what it is like to go through pivotal moments in life and the importance of trusting in oneself, rather than depending on others, during those moments. Orian believes that everyone deserves to have a mentor in life and is excited to share from her own coaching experience.

E'lan Riter

E’lan, a name that means “enthusiastic spirit”, graduated college in Agricultural Economics and formerly worked in the real estate industry. Her roots in California, Montana, and Alabama as well as her many travels have given her a curious and explorative perspective of the world.  She is currently preparing for a 2,650-mile trek on the Pacific Crest Trail to fulfill one of her life-long goals.

As a former student of the Positive Presence Mentor Coaching program, she has learned to use every challenge as an opportunity for growth and to live intentionally. E’lan has found fortitude within herself and challenges her students to find and utilize their unique qualities in day-to-day life. She believes that the only thing you can control is yourself and empowers students to put their best foot forward no matter the situation. Her empathetic, down-to-earth personality guides self-reflective conversations and intentional work.

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Bryan Robinson

Bryan is a man on a journey of reinventing and creating the reality he knows he is destined for. He spent 20 years as an Emcee for International DJs, traveling around the world, and decided to shift careers to focus on his purpose. Bryan’s passion and inspiration for helping teens and young adults stems from the lack of support he had growing up. The school system was ill equipped to deal with a misguided “trouble-maker”, such as himself, which led to Bryan dropping out. His success along with diploma came much later in life which is why he is passionate about supporting teens and young adults to set themselves up for success. Bryan found purpose in helping others find their purpose. He stays upbeat and motivated by maintaining a growth mindset and journaling along with being very introspective and intentional day to day. As a mentor coach he wants to be that voice that says “It’s possible. I believe in you. Let’s figure this out.”, while helping others understand how to uncover their true values and use them as a driving force behind the wheel on this journey called life.

Jessica Waugh

In pursuit of becoming a National Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach alongside obtaining her Positive Presence Mentor Certification, Jessica is a driven mentor who believes in living life to the fullest. Jessica has overcome many obstacles in her life, including growing up in the foster care system, that she feels have made her into the strong, resilient woman she is today. She prides herself on her ability to actively listen with compassion and without judgment, being that support she too wishes she had when she was growing up. As a former sommelier for chefs such as Gordon Ramsay, Jessica has recognized the difference between one’s passions and one’s purpose, and hopes to help her students do the same.

Kait Jensen

A former student of Positive Presence, and someone who has struggled with darkness herself, Kait Jensen, felt empowered to inspire students of her own by becoming a Mentor Coach. As someone with a creative mind, and a passion for music and art, Kait allows acceptance of all her feelings and strives to reach a place of peace when struggling with negative emotions. She practices positivity daily by remembering this is all part of the unique human experience. She believes that change starts within one person, and strives to teach her students how powerful their thoughts can be as well as the importance of choosing to operate from a place of love. Kait is confident that through her life experiences she will be able to connect with any teenager and ensure they feel heard, seen and loved no matter where they are at in their own journey.

Elisa Carter

A former student of Positive Presence, Elisa has experienced firsthand the benefit of art therapy. Diagnosed with anxiety and depression at a young age, she struggled in some of the most important areas in her life growing up from middle school and beyond. With an immense passion in art and mental health, she found her purpose in college mastering both of these skillsets for her own personal growth and the betterment of others. A skillful artist, Elisa is in pursuit of her master’s in art education and specializes in anxiety, stress management and behavioral health. She strives to show the world, especially the younger versions of her, the love and empathy that she knows so many deserve. She continues to practice her own mental health awareness through the power of positive reinforcement and self-love. Because of her experience with so many versions of darkness in her past, Elisa has an unwavering commitment to be an uplifting, inspiring role model and bright light to others.

Missy

Missy is a revitalized mother of two teenagers who has spent the last 17 years as a teacher. She understands the resilience it takes to raise children in the midst of a global pandemic and is passionate about being a mentor because she recognizes there isn’t nearly enough support for the overwhelming number of people silently struggling. Her sincere and compassionate personality is what makes her thrive as a coach. Missy starts each morning with daily affirmations that she reflects on throughout the day to ensure she is operating from an optimistic mindset. She is a firm believer that everyone deserves to live life as the best version of themselves and strives to help others discover what that life looks like for them.

Cassidy Howser

Cassidy Howser, a first-generation college graduate, received her Bachelor’s degree in Human Development and Family Sciences with a minor in Conflict Analysis and Trauma Studies from Kansas State University. She began her work as a Youth Counselor Supervisor in a Psychiatric Residential Treatment Facility before transitioning into Case Management. Cassidy has a passion for empowering young women as they navigate the many challenges of adolescent development. Her versatile and innovative coaching style is what makes her stand out as a coach. She utilizes a connection-based, holistic and strengths-focused approach to connect with the students she works with. Cassidy remembers going through her own darkness as a teenager and wants to be that non-judgmental, listening ear that she wishes she had through those pivotal moments of life. 

Marcos King

Marcos King strives to leave a legacy by supporting multiple generations and providing sound advice, life skills, and strategies for success. He believes that no challenge before him is too daunting when he attacks it with the right perspective, and he hopes to guide his students in learning these perspectives. He has an innate ability to look at life through the lenses of those he mentors – always offering a calming space while working through whatever his students may bring to the session. As a father himself, he understands the importance of leaving room for understanding and forgiveness; an important aspect of growth. Marcos enjoys creating art and believes in that space, there are no mistakes – a belief and mindset he approaches life with.

Avery Gillespie

Avery recently graduated from the University of Boulder and landed her dream job as a recruiting salesperson in Denver while achieving her Mentor Coaching Certification with Positive Presence. As a former student of our Founder in our Mentor-Coaching program, Avery aspires to help the next generation understand the importance of self-exploration. The personal development work Avery did, and success she achieved through this program was so impactful, she now strives to provide that same safe space for her own students. Avery enjoys spending time in nature, traveling, and getting active as well as being surrounded by those she loves. She coaches on the importance of resiliency and self-reliance with the ultimate intention of finding intrinsic motivation and self-fulfillment.

Bret Hawkesworth

Born and raised in Kansas, Bret is a witty mentor who believes that words are powerful and those same words are what creates your reality. Bret has taken time to reflect on his life thus far and recognizes the immense impact a Mentor could have had on him during those transitional phases of life; which is the driving force behind him obtaining his Mentor Coaching Certification. He believes in finding balance in life – when he is investing in his education, working out or spending time with his cheer squad; he likes playing video games. As a male cheerleader, he has had to overcome external judgment and choose to follow what fuels his passions rather than succumbing to others’ opinions. Bret strives to help the students he works with understand the importance of taking control of their life and making decisions today that will positively contribute to their life tomorrow and years to come.

Alex Sarlo

Alex is a proud Korean adoptee living in Phoenix, Arizona. She is an online college student obtaining her Bachelor’s Degree in Behavioral Health Science at Grand Canyon University with a Nutrition Certificate from Cornell University. After eight years of playing club, high school, and a year of college volleyball, Alex retired to focus on her well-being. As a teenager, Alex had developed body image issues, struggled with depression and an eating disorder, faced lots of discrimination for being adopted, and has experienced large amounts of racism throughout her lifetime in school, sports, friendships, relationships, clubs, and especially the entertainment industry. Alex is now a proud, working actress and a huge mental health and animal advocate. Her goal is to teach others to love themselves regardless of what race they are or how they look. Alex is not afraid to vocalize her opinion on uncomfortable or controversial topics when deemed necessary. Between the growing harsh realities of societal standards becoming more impossible to live up to and the toxicity of social media, she is all about pushing self-love, compassion, positivity, and everything mental health while finding peace within yourself. Alex is very grateful to be a part of Positive Presence and is excited to help and support others through their journey!

Brooklyn Shearer

Brooklyn found her drive to become a mentor after she graduated high school and began taking courses at Southern Utah University. Having gone through this coaching journey herself; she witnessed first-hand the positive impact a mentor can have on someone. She is passionate about helping teens and young adults because during much of her junior high and high school experience she personally struggled a lot with a myriad of things such as anxiety, depression and relationships with herself and others. Through those struggles Brooklyn was able to learn coping skills to lessen the weight of these day-to-day struggles. She believes the skills she utilizes could aid another teenager who is currently facing some of the hardships she has overcome. Brooklyn finds joy when working out, taking care of her plants and being involved with her community theater. She aims to aid her students with identifying what brings them authentic joy as she has learned the importance of creating joy for herself rather than depending on others.

Alek Platt

Alek Platt, a medical imaging engineer, 20-year veteran, and single father of two teens, brings a lifetime of experiences to the table. Traveling the world with the Air National Guard and leading missions without precedent, Alek quickly learned the value of effective communication, the lessons within mistakes, and the impact of compassion. Discovering the importance of boundaries and self-love in his darkest moments Alek viscerally understands the dynamics of abusive relationships and the process of trauma recovery. Raising two teens himself, he understands the importance of education evolvement, and wants our communities to grow from history instead of repeat it. He believes impactful education is missing from traditional schools and strives to be a part of the solution in course correcting this ongoing nationwide issue. Being a well-spring of enthusiasm, creativity, and knowledge Alek’s approach to mentor coaching is an adventure of self-discovery with lots of laughter, tears, and positive introspection.

Michelle Marie King

Michelle Marie King is the premier Confidence Coach for teenagers, young adults and young entrepreneurs across the globe. She founded Positive Presence Global – the largest confidence coaching company in North America – and has helped people worldwide find their confidence in all aspects of their life. Michelle’s engaging and energetic personality coupled with her ability to motivate has distinguished her as a personal development trailblazer.

In her career as a model, philanthropist, emcee, entrepreneur, spokesperson and public speaker, Michelle has appeared on radio, television, billboards and print in over 15 different states for her community efforts and her ongoing business ventures.

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Missy Vandenheuvel

Communications Specialist