A Powerful Expression of Self-Love

This blog was originally written as a self-reflection by Positive Presence student – Orian Shaer. Writing her thoughts and observations of her self-love was a recommendation of her coach – Positive Presence Founder – Michelle Marie King. Our goal as a company is to have every student we work with be able to keep themselves in the light, AND be able to positively impact others to do the same. We asked Orian if we could share her words as a testament to the powerful positive potency of self-respect. Orian hopes this blog helps others learn how to love themselves! Enjoy!

‘I am unique because I give more than I receive. I am unique because even after all the hurt, I have not become cold. I am unique because I have an inner strength that has not burnt out. I am unique because I love harder than most people. I am unique because I am open to vulnerability even with the fear of being hurt. I am unique because I know the hurt makes me stronger and my scars do not own me. I am unique because my emotions do not control me. I am unique because I fight for what I want romantically, physically, mentally and spiritually. I am unique because my actions come from a place of genuine intention and pure love. I am unique because I carry greatness within myself. I am unique because my aura is bright and I make people smile. I am unique because I have made sacrifices to achieve my goals. I am unique because I am helpful and I’m open to learn new information. I am unique because I am passionate about something in my life. I am unique because I have had very little days off to accomplish my goals. I am unique because I am a hard worker. I am unique because I always try to be better.

I am grateful for the people who have disappointed me. I am grateful for the flings that taught me real love. I am grateful for people who helped me become who I am. I am grateful for those who challenged me mentally and physically. I am grateful for my strength. I am grateful that I am genuine. I am grateful for the little things in life that reminded me of the world’s kindness when I felt nothing but sadness. I am grateful for the wildfires that became a field of new opportunities.

I know good things are coming for me. I know that everything happens for a reason. I know that I am in control of my emotions. I know that no one will be there for me as well as I am. I know I am different from others in the most beautiful way. I know things will get better. I know sadness is temporary. I know that I have so much to offer. I know that from now things will only get clearer, with occasional wild winds and storms. I know that I AM GREAT!

I accept the hurt. I accept the absence of people I loved. I accept that things are exactly the way they are supposed to be right now. I accept that I cannot please everyone. I accept that not everyone I love will be good for me. I accept that I will have to make hard decisions for myself, regardless of my emotions. I accept that I am a strong individual. I accept that I do not need anyone to be successful. I accept that I am beautiful. I accept that I am who I am. I accept that I am all I need.

I will let go of the things that do not value me. I will let go of the pain. I will let go of the things holding me back. I will say goodbye to things that want to be set free. I will grow to who I want to become. I will grow into the best mindset I possibly can. I will grow and be successful in my passion. I will be successful because I DESERVE IT.

I deserve love. I deserve respect. I deserve matching energy. I deserve happiness. I deserve everything. Anything or anyone that is not supportive of my journey or holding me back, does not deserve to be in it and shall not be dragged throughout it. Anything or anyone that enters my life only to leave, will be let go with a smile of gratitude. I am who I am for a reason. I am not my traumas. I am not my emotions. I am not the negativity within. I am stronger than my emotions. I am better than my pain. I am smart. I am independent. I am kind. I am affectionate. I am lovable. I am loved. I am respected. I am appreciated. I am good on my own. I love myself because I am UNIQUE.

I am someone that has goals. I have goals that I will achieve. I have good intentions. I will allow people to enter my life, to love and appreciate but I will never need the presence of someone to feel whole. I will learn to disattach. I will learn to rely on myself because I am all I need. I am already whole. I am already more than my scars. I am already amazing. I do not need to change for anyone but myself. I do not owe anyone anything because my only and strongest enemy is MYSELF! I only owe myself to stay strong.’

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Jessica has roughly 20 years of experience in the food and beverage industry, curating premier wine programs in Las Vegas and developing educational programs for the largest beverage distribution company in North America. In 2022, Jessica altered her focus and is now utilizing her educational, management, and organizational skills to positively impact others on a grander scale. She is now developing multiple modalities focused in emotional intelligence, executive functioning, meta-learning, and positive psychology for struggling teens and young adults.

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